Let the inner kid in you go!
If you want to change your life from phelgmatic and redundant to exciting and new, you need to work on being more social. Some of the most successful people in the world are not extremely intellectual, but they can connect with everyone. If you want life to be your playground and have the time of your life, you need to stop giving a fuck.
One of our biggest problems in life is as we age, we go through experiences that shut us down socially. When we were kids we were so curious. We were always in our own little worlds. We just didn’t give a shit or ever care about what others thought. That’s how it should be.
Unfortunately its not. If you want to jump back into the childhood mind set and get out of your head so you can approach people every where you go, listen up.
We hinder ourselves with that little voice in our heads. The one making false assumptions and saying negative things. If we walk around and want to approach people but can never muster up the courage it is actually extraordinarily easy to change. It’ s because your mind set is shifted in the wrong gear, reverse perhaps. We need to change our perception of these situations when they occur.
When we walk into a grocery store and see a beautiful young lady our little voice (that we DO have control over) starts talking. “Oh My God, she is absolutely gorgeous”. “She’s way too good for me”. “Should I try to say something”. “Should I say hi”. “What should I fucking say”. “Ahh now its too late, I’ll say hi next time”. If you could jump into the mind of every man in that store it would probably be the same.
How do we change this you ask? We change what that little voice is telling us. If we perceive her as attractive but realize there’s thousands of more women just like her out there, that she wants to talk to us because she seems friendly, that she would love to meet someone new today, that she smiled at us because she wants to talk, that she made eye contact because she finds your attractive, that we are confident men, that we can talk to anyone, that we have millions of things to say, then our actions and behaviors will instantly change. If we shift our mindset into this frame there’s really no stopping us.
That is the power of your mind. Your thoughts control your actions even at a subconscious level. We won’t have to think about the 5 second approaching rule, our tonality, or body language. If our minds our in this positive state everything will fall into place naturally.
SOOOOOO….. It is Sunday morning here in California and there are hundreds of thousands of girls who will be out. I’m going to keep my mindset on the positive side and talk to as many as possible when I’m running errands around town. What will you chose to do? Sit at home wishing to have a better life or taking the next step to becoming a social networking natural? I think the latter judging by your attempt to change your life by reading this blog. You, unlike others, want to change. Want something better. I fully believe you will get there and it starts today.
You know it’s super easy to talk to people, say hi, and at least smile at everyone! So get out there and have fun with it.
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